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Browse all Get Style. Browse all Get Strong. Browse all Get Social. Browse all Get Skilled. While much in the way of traditional gender roles has shifted in modern times, most women I know still want a man who can be the rock in the relationship. But just what does being the rock entail? Not that I can control the events that happen in life, but I can control how our family responds to the events.
Those are the times of real testing. The person you can always rely on. Being calm when the situation seems to be chaotic and panic the order of the day. My dad is the rock because he is reason when emotion prevails, compassion when hearts are hardened, and humorous when you least expect it. Be a haven of safety. Sometimes a woman wants to cry on your shoulder. You should be a bastion of calmness, strength, and understanding. Let your woman know that letting out her feelings is okay and give her your undivided attention.
Unravel the problem. Her feelings are knotted up in a great ball. Your job is to slowly take the problem apart. Be interested and attentive to what she has to say. She really wants someone to talk through the problem with and vent Looking for my rock guy. Ask follow-up questions and have her explain her concerns. Formulate a plan…. And sometimes that assumption is correct, but certainly not always. Or do you just want to vent? Come up with a specific action plan to help your wife tackle the problem. When appropriate, put her mind at ease and take on some of the responsibility for making things right.
All you need to worry about it working on that paper. Telling her not to worry only dismisses her feelings as invalid and thus is prone to make her angry. When something tragic happens that affects your family, be a pillar of strength during the crisis.
Take care of the business that needs taking care of. Now, I know that some are going to say that keeping your feelings in is unhealthy. But the idea is not to suppress them indefinitely. Instead, you follow the ancient code of manhood: women and children first. You let them do their grieving during the initial shock of things. You should take time to be by yourself and vent to other family members and friends. She wants to know that the loss has affected you too. But in situations where she needs you to be strong, then you man up and face the world while she heals. Express your emotions in a mature and healthy way.
A woman has many fears about having a relationship with a man. Will he be abusive? Will he be faithful?
Will he provide for the family? Will he regress into a boy-man who spurns responsibility?
Instead of placating these fears, keeping your feelings from your wife or girlfriend will only exacerbate them. So being the rock really means expressing your emotions and concerns in a healthy and mature way. Doing so will actually solidfy and strengthen your relationship. This is especially important to remember when you and your partner are dealing with problems in the relationship.
You can take whatever she throws out you without losing control or threatening to leave her. You can let her know your feelings like a man, not a boy. Take care of business. I often find it much easier to rise to the occasion when a big crisis hits than when following through on the mundane, everyday tasks that my wife expects of me.
But a woman wants to know she can count on you in the big things and the small things. Taking care of business means doing all the things that help inspire confidence in your partner.
It means being absolutely reliable; if you say you will do it, you do it. You can always be counted on to follow-through. They provided a realm of safety where their family could let down their guard knowing that the man would not let his down and they would be safe. Being the rock means being the protector, the watchman, the provider.
Today our loved ones rely on us to provide a safe realm where they can allow themselves to let their guard down emotionally and physically. They know we will get up in the middle of the night with a baseball bat and check that noise they heard downstairs.
They know that you will not belittle them like their peers at school, work, church, etc. Being the rock means providing a place where they can find love, understanding, emotional safety, physical safety, and acceptance. Be the man. Be the rock.
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